Selma Metz

Robin Rubenstein’s mother, Selma Metz, was living in her own house in an active adult community and loving it – right up until she had to stop driving. “When she could no longer drive, she became totally dependent on me seven days a week,” said Robin. “She likes to be around people. She’s a very social person. When she could no longer get to the clubhouse, especially at night, she was almost completely alone.”

Fortunately, Robin learned that a friend’s mother was moving to Applewood, so Robin came to visit and discovered it met all her mother’s needs.

“It’s a community – like one big family,” says Robin. “Everyone is friendly, and my mother never eats alone anymore.”

The difference Applewood made in her mother’s life was apparent in many ways. At her previous community, she and many of her friends were essentially housebound during the previous harsh winter. “She was just sitting in this big house, unable to do anything. She was lonely and depressed,” says Robin. “But this past winter at Applewood, even though the weather was very rough, she could get to activities easily. She was busy from around ten in the morning until eight at night almost every day.”

At Applewood, her mother’s activities include going to shows, watching the Monmouth Symphony Orchestra and the Sweet Adelines rehearse, singing in the Applewood Chorus, playing cards and bingo, and sharing meals with many new friends. “People are always calling her to come eat with them,” says Robin, adding, “She’s always busy – she has more activities than my kids had growing up.”

Security was another big issue in the decision to move to Applewood. “Before, her friends would drop her off and she was going into an empty house by herself,” says Robin. “If she’d fallen getting inside, no one would have known. Here, there’s security available in case something happens.”

Selma acknowledges her life has changed for the better. “I should have moved here sooner,” she says.
Best of all is the change Robin sees in her mother every day. “I feel like she’s back,” says Robin. “She’s gotten her life back.”